I watched a Video another surrogate made today, OMG it was beautiful. I sat and cried and cried. Wow do I want to do another Surrogacy?? Watching this video makes me want to give that love back to another couple. Am I crazy?!! Thank you Stacy, You rekindled my feelings for Surrogacy.
After talking about it with my husband & Family I placed an ad.
Ad has been placed on groups & approved.
I received well over 10 replies but immediately took of several as they were from agencies, nothing against those but I would prefer to be matched on my terms. And then I decided to say no to a few right off b/c they were "too eager" to start. One offered me a "bonus" if I became pregnant. UMM no, that's not how it works with me.
So I replied to 4 that I really liked who were very detailed and seemed genuine. Two wrote back right away, and the other two I guess just dropped off the face of the earth, or they found someone else. I sent them a questionnaire, and told them about myself. Sent them onto my website & explained that ideally I would like to transfer in July/Aug of 2007, which would put me at 10/11 months post partum with Addisyn. One said ideally they would like to start sooner rather than later but she said she would love to stay in touch and asked if she could ask me any questions about the process. I assured her that I would be more than happy to answer any questions she may have. She is such a sweet woman; I know that she will find a great surrogate.
So that left one couple left, N & J wow they are amazing. They not only are willing to wait for me, we've agreed on everything already. They are going to be flying to come meet our family around the weekend after V-day. Then we will work on getting to know each other more, work on contracts and ideally transfer in July/Aug time frame. I just can't wait to meet them.
First Phone Call
I answered the phone tonight, with my usual Hello. J said Hello Heather it’s J & N. My heart fluttered. Wow, they sounded soo wonderful. (LOL I know what you’re thinking you can tell that from just 6 words. Yes!!) We continued talking, I was so nervous, I kept laughing. Then the most embarrassing thing occurred, MY PHONE DIED!! OH no!! I got up and ran to the Kitchen thankfully they were still there. I kept thinking GREAT Heather way to impress them. Thankfully they were great about it all. We talked for a little over 45 minutes. It was amazing. I felt such joy speaking with them. Are they the ones?
Second Phone Call
It was just N today; J is out of town for a business meeting. We spoke about each others time lines, and our expectations. It was good just sitting down getting to know N, she’s s easy to speak with. Our conversations just seem to flow. I really like them. I can see myself working with them. I hope they ask me.
Jan 25th , 2007 (66 minutes)
Third Phone call, tonight we talked about NC laws, J went to Law school, and he called and spoke to several lawyers here in NC. They said that no one (that they know of) has been able to obtain a PBO in my county. I know there have been several surrogates who have delivered in Fayetteville up at the Army hospital with IP’s out of the state. I know of one of my friend Sandye has delivered two babies there, so what I need to do is call her and ask these questions:
Did you Obtain a PBO?
Where your Ip’s Out of state?
Who was the lawyer?
Oh wow, each time I talk with N & J, I love them more and more. They are SOOO Open, & honest, and caring. I love them!!
We also talked about cameras, I am looking into getting a newer model & J knows a lot about them so we talked about different brands. Shutter speeds, pretty much everything like that.
I hung the phone up with the greatest feeling. I never had these senses with anyone. N & J are so easy going, laid back people. They truly are “the ones.” I can’t wait to meet them in 23 days!!
I had an awesome conversation with N tonight, it was just us girls. I feel like we are really connected it's so amazing. She & I became a lot closer tonight. I really feel like she is just one of my other girlfriends. There were no odd pauses, or anything the conversation flowed like we have known each other for years. We kept saying oh we should get off the phone,and then we'd talk and talk more. LOL It was soo neat. I can't wait until our next conversation!!! Only NINE more days until they come!!!!!!
